Affair Recovery Counseling in Virginia
You truly don’t know where to go from here.
So, there’s been an affair in your relationship. And, you and your partner are doing your best to get through it. Unfortunately, it’s not going well. If we’re being 100% honest, your relationship has been struggling for awhile, since even before the affair. However, since the infidelity happened, you and your partner have been trying to move on. I mean, really trying. Unfortunately, you’re just on two different pages. One wants to talk about what happened and the other is ready to put it in the past. The circular arguments, or lack of arguments, is really taking a toll. Is your relationship worth trying to save?
If any of this is starting to sound familiar, it’s probably time to talk to a specially trained couples therapist. And if you live in Virginia, our therapists may be a fit for helping you and your partner work through the infidelity and begin the slow, painful process of affair recovery.
Do we Really Need Counseling to Recover From the Affair?
You want to do it on your own for so many reasons. Maybe it’s embarrassing to talk about what happened. Perhaps you thought you could just agree it wouldn’t happen again and put it in the past. Or maybe it feels like things aren’t “bad enough” to go to counseling. If the relationship was worth saving, you could do it on your own, right?
Unfortunately, that’s not always the case. Affairs are a huge tear in a relationship. Even if it was “only” an emotional affair, the emotional strain is huge. And often, a couple needs professional help to truly, successfully move on after the trust has been broken in a relationship. The truth is that many relationships DO recover and many even rebuild to be stronger than ever. But you have a much better chance of that happening if you get some support during this difficult time.
Specific Reasons to See a Couples Therapist Right Now
When recovering from an affair, there’s often a variety of emotions experienced by both people. These situations are often complex and tough to navigate. On top of that, each relationship has different dynamics that can impact the outcome of situations like this. There are many factors that influence this, like history, individual expectations, and goals to name a few. Our online marriage counselors have been providing marriage counseling to couples where one partner has had an affair for many years. A few of the specific things that we’ve seen bring couples in after an affair include:
- Having trouble talking about the affair
- Not sure what the next transition will look like
- One partner wants to move on, and the other partner has a hard time moving on from it
- Both partners having intense emotions associated with the affair
- Feeling increased anxiety
- Feeling extremely unsure of what the next step is
- Having symptoms of depression develop
Every relationship is different. And therefore, every recovery and rebuilding of the relationship is different. But the truth is, if you are looking at this page, you probably already know it’s time to get some professional help.
Counseling Can Help Your Relationship Heal & Grow
Recovering from an affair is not for the faint of heart. Sometimes, it can feel heartwrenching. You can find yourself wondering if the effort is worth it. But it IS possible.
Our marriage counselors understand the pain an affair causes both individuals, but also that it often happens even in relationships where both partners really value the relationship and love one another. Our couples therapists believe in relationships and are here to help. By starting online affair recovery counseling, you and your partner can work together to find the path that makes the most sense for your relationship. In addition, our marriage counselors are able to work with you anywhere in the state through online therapy in Virginia.
Through online affair recovery counseling in Virginia, we have helped couples at many different points in their life and relationship. We’ve worked with college students, couples navigating big life transitions, and parents, too. And, they’ve helped these couples in recovering from an affair. Yes, it might seem bleak right now. But, recovering from an affair through affair recovery counseling is possible.
Our Approach to Affair Recovery Counseling
Our first goal when providing affair recovery counseling is to teach you both to hear each other. Regardless of your role in the affair, think about the last time you and your partner actually listened to each other. Not just in conversations since the affair, but even before that. When was the last time you listened to your partner just to hear what they thought or had to say? There’s a good chance it’s been a while since that’s happened. Our marriage counselors goal is to help you both get out of defensive mode. Instead, into a mindset that you’re having genuine conversations and listening with intention- instead of thinking about what you’re going to say next.
Building Communication Skills Through Affair Recovery Counseling
From our perspective as marriage counselors, there is no “we don’t talk about that” conversation. In an intimate relationship, tough conversations should be encouraged and fostered in a kind manner. While they are not always easy, they are almost important to the relationship. In addition to helping you get out of defensive mode, our marriage counselors will help you and your partner to communicate your thoughts and feelings in a productive way.
EFT in Affair Recovery Counseling
When providing support to couples recovering from an affair, our marriage counselors often use Emotions Focused Therapy. Through EFT, our online marriage counselors know that most couples frequently have the “same fight.” Of course, different details are included depending on the situation. But, most of the fights follow the same pattern. Our marriage counselors will work with you and your partner to better understand each other. In addition, our marriage counselors will help you evaluate the emotions that you are both feeling. And, our marriage counselors will help you to communicate them effectively to your partner.
Begin Online Affair Recovery Counseling in Virginia
The next step in recovering from an affair that occurs is not always clear. It can be difficult to know what the right step for your relationship is. Luckily, our online marriage counselors in Virginia can help. Modeling the approach we use in our centrally based Virginia counseling clinic, our marriage counselors can aid you in navigating the next steps. Affair recovery counseling can help you and your partner communicate your needs and express your desires as you move forward. When you’re ready to begin affair recovery counseling in Virginia, follow these steps:
- Reach out to our client care coordinator to schedule your appointment.
- Get to know our team of online marriage counselors.
- Feel in control of your anxious thoughts.
Other Counseling Services Provided in Virginia
Affair recovery counseling isn’t the only service we offer at Monday Courage. We are working with all of our clients through online therapy since we have closed our Virginia based counseling clinic to the public. As an online counseling clinic, we are able to help couples physically located anywhere in the state of Virginia and currently have clients from throughout the state including Arlington, Lynchburg, Roanoke & Fredericksburg. In addition to couples therapy, we offer individual counseling services as well. Our therapists provide ADD/ADHD treatment, trauma therapy, anxiety treatment, grief and loss counseling, PTSD treatment, and depression counseling. When our clients will benefit, we incorporate mindfulness, CBT, and DBT during our sessions. In addition, we offer specialized support for women, men, divorce recovery, and life transitions.