I got into counseling first as a client sitting on the couch and beginning the process of looking at my story. My wife, knowing that I was in pain and struggling, encouraged me to go to counseling numerous times but I resisted. In my view, counseling was for “crazy people” and I had my stuff together. It took me a while before I realized that I didn’t have things together at all, I just needed to believe I did because I didn’t think I had permission to be anything but “happy”. I finally decided to take a risk and start the counseling journey. At first, I was nervous and not really sure if it made sense to have hope. I didn’t really know what to expect and I was worried that we would sit staring at each other with nothing to talk about.
As the sessions rolled on I realized more and more what counseling is really about.
It’s not about having everything together or getting to a magical place where your life is perfect. It’s about facing the reality of your life with greater courage, strength and openness. And, it’s about loving yourself beyond a cheap way that involves giving in to your every desire. It’s loving yourself enough to recognize that even on your worst day you have value, dignity, and purpose. I’m very much looking forward to working with you on shaping your own story.
My Approach to Counseling
I believe that you and I building a trusting and understanding relationship is the first step. Without reciprocal trust, our time will not be meaningful. What’s more, I want to focus on you reaching your goals. Counseling should look and feel the way that will offer you the best environment to foster the change you’re wanting to make. My approach to counseling is intended to ensure that you’ll use what we talk about in session outside of session. My goal is to help you create these changes that will leave long-lasting impressions. And that will help you to achieve the version of life that you deserve.